I understand kicking her out of the house is a gray area given the time we have lived together in the same place. I appreciate all the feedback regarding ultimatums as they really are hard to enforce. Another thing that is complicating the sitch is that S6 is fully remote learning due to Covid and one of us really has to be there with him to help him with school. As I am working out of the house, I will be complicating our things significantly in a very short period of time.
In the last few days we have had a few arguments and they are mainly over her planned trip. She seems to be backing off of the idea to go, but then again I realize that I am dealing with a very unpredictable person so her decisions can change 4 times in a single day. If she decides to go, the trip will be on her own dime or OM will pay for it; ever since I found the forum I stopped the pursuing with flowers and gifts.
IHS is extremely difficult as we still share meals together, she does the cooking, laundry, etc. and we also hang out with our friends (and S6's friends) together. They have no idea what is actually going on and perhaps think that we are just going through a typical husband-wife phase. Some days I feel like I am in a poorly written drama film where everything seems to be fine on the surface, but deep inside things are very nightmar-ish. When I first read the DB rules, I took note of the fact that one has to be extremely patient to be successful at DB, but lately I feel like after 2 years of the same I might be running out of patience. With each new lie and deceit that I uncover, I feel less and less in the mood for fighting for us.
