I don't even know what the fuching ball analogy means.
Just that she wants me to be the one to be open and vulnerable without her having to do the same.
Originally Posted by LH19
I think you need to make it clear for you to be vulnerable you have to ditch the hore house and she needs to get herself into IC and then eventually MC.
You can't just take a break from your marriage so she can sleep around for awhile and then go back to normal.
She's in IC and in some ways that is what triggered a lot of what is going on now. Last year they started really digging into her past and issues and that led to her revisiting things which led to her contacting the OM, etc. etc. Do I think she's sleeping around? No. Is that naive of me? Probably. Ultimately, it doesn't matter until she tells me that she is or I somehow confirm it. In the meantime I am not going to torture myself dwelling on it.
Originally Posted by LH19
I think you see progress and I see a severely damaged individual.
I see progress in a damaged individual. I see progress in us. I don't see progress in our ability to sustain it if all the other strains and stresses of marriage/family are added back into the equation.
