Onward and Upward!

[97Hope]

There are people who can date someone else while they still have an emotional attachment to an ex - personally I can say from experience that that's a bad idea. A woman I dated essentially wanted to turn me into a more acceptable version of her ex - down to the clothes and wearing a gold chain .

Yikes!

Given my own set of circumstances I'm waffling around. For right now I have no interest in dating for any sort of intention. Prior to that I was dating with the intention of finding a new partner - and got burned badly - twice - in that experience..

My intention is to meet new people and make friends first. I can see where looking for a new partner wouldn't work out - but mostly because I ask around and read the threads here a lot.

I personally think that the more clearly you can have your own baggage categorized and taken care of with no distracting strings or emotions pulling you in unexpected directions the better you will be able to have a satisfying relationship of any sort.

Thanks, Andrew. I've read your sitch and glad you are clear of your last one.

I think the point is - only we know for sure where we are emotionally, and it's good to have support and advice - but we shouldn't be judged when we do what we think is best for us.

Now - a good friend saying - danger, will rogers!! is different, but blanket rules/statements from people who haven't walked this is different.