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[97Hope]

I have a couple of people in my life who've weighed in with opinions when they aren't asked ... one is related to me the other one of my closest friends. I won't lie - there's now a distance, on my part, from them doing this repeatedly and not accepting my boundaries.

This is me now. Starting to put some distance between me and those who just don't understand.

the friend says things like "why are you even blah blah blah. I would just" and until in exasperation I've said things like, well, I'm not you. This isn't your life. It's mine, and I have to do what makes sense to me, not what makes sense to you. I've also said no, you DON'T know. You think you do, but you aren't here living it every day so you could not possibly know. Our relationship has not been the same since, nor do I think we will ever get back to where we were.

When people say "I would just" - it's usually a clear indication that they have zero clues. They really don't know.

the relative went OFF on me about possibly dating - I'm talking meeting someone for coffee, not dinner, not drinks, not a weekend away, a freaking cup of coffee -- it will be YEARS before you're ready (this was two years ago) ... I'm like, whaaaa? no. done.

Same.

It's hurtful, but I don't need to be judged.

Yup.

I suppose maybe a simpler thing would be to say something like I prefer not to discuss that.

I've sat on this for about a week. I've decided just to be honest with her and give her the option to keep it to herself or not, but I will no longer discuss it with her.

Are they given a script? Lol - these are almost verbatim what I have heard and how I feel about it.