it's more clear that there is so much mis-communication and understanding missing between us, and it's like she's running on resentment and not seeing what has been really going on. she's also really stubborn.
It will get worse, and she's going to test you in several ways. It's not b/c she is conflicted or having second thoughts. It's b/c she wants assurance that you are still emotionally attached.
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She's being kind,
Just wait, she'll change. Kindness from the WW is often her sneaky way of manipulation, and the guy never has a clue.
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I can't help that my stance is me looking like a non-kind person and not building any bridges..... maybe someday I'll look back on this thread and it will all make sense.
Okay, let's talk about this. I think I may have said something once before about LBH's with NGS having trouble balancing how they view things when we start discussing some DBing techniques. For example, you've brought up words like, cold and non-kind in the past couple of posts. So, I'm curious. If you were to describe the actions of a strong man in a sitch such as yours, how would he look to you? Would you see him as a man of who commands respect? Do you see him being a harsh disciplinarian? Do you see strength as unkind or impolite? Do you see detaching as acting mad and/or cold? These are areas you seem to be resisting, so let's talk about what your mind sees when you think of a strong man.
Now you may not like my next question, but let's get down to the nitty-gritty. Why does it bother you so much at the thought of not responding to your WW in your usual manner? Like, why does it bother you if you don't reply to every single photo she sends, or her text that has no question? Why does it bother you if I suggest you need to use less words when texting her? Why do you see it as being cold or impolite? Don't say it's b/c you love her. You've got to get down in the raw meat about who you are as a man. IMHO, if you will dig deep and answer these two questions very honestly, I think we might start getting somewhere.
I hope, at the least, you'll work with us to find balance as you digest this new information, instead of jumping from one polar end to the other. Am I making sense? ((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!