She's being kind, and I can't help that my stance is me looking like a non-kind person and not building any bridges..... maybe someday I'll look back on this thread and it will all make sense.
You're right J. You are being a jerk. I mean being short with your responses are way worse than BDing your spouse and moving out of the house.
I don't say that to be sarcastic but to point out how illogical LBSs can get when it comes to this stuff. It is like when my W got all indignant about my snooping on her. As if snooping and finding out about her EA was worse than carrying on an EA with an OM!!
J, you are basing things on feelings. You need to start thinking about things logically. You cannot nice her back, that is something that I can guarantee you. We've seen it time and time and time again in these situations. You can try and learn the hard way. Or you can listen to those that have gone before and realize that doing what FEELS right is not the same as doing what is best.
Bottom line, it is your sitch. Handle it the way you want. Though I will warn you, therapists typically do not get DBing. That is why if you go to IC to SAVE your marriage, you will get bad advice. If you go to IC to IMPROVE yourself, you will be much better off.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
