that stinks to hear. I know a lot of pain for me came from willful ignorance. We know these things happen when people are going through divorce, yet we don't believe it can happen to us. It's human nature.
Something I did every day for a year or so was tell myself "today could be the last day you are married". And it could be the last day you draw breath too. It reminded me of the reality of my situation and helped me to accept and expect everything that happened. This kept me from getting too low.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
