Well it was supposed to be about the kids. It was to tell me they don’t have school the next two Mondays and it evolved into this other extra stuff. But I put my foot down. Told her I’m not here to listen that I’m not okay with being buddies. I told her not to be mad about it for the kids sake. She said “I’m not mad, your a sour patch right now you are sour but you will be sweet later” lol. Usually that is correct but this time She’s got another thing coming. See if I answer the phone again. If it’s not a text about the kids ain’t even looking at it. Just removed her from my social media. And I cancelled her car insurance under my USAA. Also cancelled my Disney plus and Netflix that she uses. She wants to believe I am still the soft attached loser. Well not anymore. Not after her telling me “I’m not trying to replace you just letting you suffer a little longer to learn your lesson” man that set me off. And strangely I don’t feel as bad as I thought I would for doing this finally. Yep yep don’t believe me it’s fine. I’ll come back next Sunday and update. It will be better I for me in the future I know it.
This is not a 2x4, but a reminder that your ACTIONS speak louder than your words. I like some of the follow ups you did with the accounts, etc. I also am confused because you say you had to say this to her, but I thought you had said things like this to her before in previous conversations? Am I not remembering correctly?
Also just another question, couldn't she have texted you about the kids school schedule? This is why we advise letting phonecalls go to voicemail. Steve, could it have been that you were hoping one more phone call would go your way as far as her saying the right things? Just a thought.
Look, I know this is a struggle. When my longtime on-again, off-again girlfriend would call me out of the blue there was always the sense of hope. "Maybe she'll say she loves me, can't live without me, wants to be with me and is breaking contact with whomever she is in a real R with right now!" The problem was that in the decades that she pulled my chain she did make that phonecall a couple of times. But her actions never followed her words. I learned that not answering the phone (and remember, this was before text, email, etc!) was my best course of action. If we are believing nothing they say and only half of what they do, then what good is a conversation with them?
Steve, you have struggled mightily and continue to do so. You've probably been the LBH that has gone the longest eating the most crap sandwiches from their WW that we've seen. My wish for you is to find your backbone when it comes to this serial cheating liar, so that you can move forward! It is painful to see you stuck like this, mainly because I can relate.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
