Thanks for that response. I really appreciated what you have to say and you added some more info that I had not considered before.
I agree with both of your statements and feel that WW harbors both viewpoints. She did want to let me know she was done and I think the idea of me moving on as quickly as she did lessens her guilt. I think she feels if people know drh2001 has moved on and started dating, he couldn't have loved his wife to begin with.
I haven't started looking elsewhere. I have three teen daughters who are virtual learning and I'm remote learning and spend my day putting out small fires and making sure they wake up on time and don't cut class. I think that because I haven't moved on as quickly as WW wanted me to, it probably frustrates the heck out of her.
Have I thought about moving on? Absolutely. Do I want to? I don't know. Still working on myself and doing 180s and about to do the LRT technique. I still harbor a fantasy about reconciliation.
My WW is not acting out of vengeance to hurt me, She wants to live her fantasy of having a better life without me and with someone who makes her feel good about herself, which right now OM is doing.
She know what she's doing is "considered" morally wrong - I use the word "considered" in terms of how others would consider her actions and behavior, because not long ago she would have considered her outrageous behavior morally wrong - so she paints a false narrative of taking the kids and leaving me a long time ago because it's more acceptable to her that people believe this false narrative rather than the awful truth that she had been living with me and the kids in the marital home for almost a year while being in an A with OM.
