[Elbereth]

For now,I have not yet received a reply to the email I sent him. However, I do know that he would like to buy-in the house where I live with the children (I cannot buy it because it is too expensive). He wants me to stay here with them. I've been thinking about this but this is not something I want.
In this way he keeps full control of me and the children and if he suddenly returns I run the risk of having to leave the house in a rush. That's why I've already decided for myself that I want a fresh start, not one where he can exert any control over me.

After all, he wanted all this, this was not my choice, but I will protect myself from what comes. I do have control over that.

What do you think about this?

I agree its safer to be free and clear of a tie to him if you are divorcing. Unless of course you could own the home and the loans, but otherwise, why be put in a position of vulnerability? He may be offering it out of guilt or genuine concern for the kids or something else "positive" (ugh, yeah, I wanted all this but I want to be the nice guy), but if you are getting a D and you want less contact, then I think your decision makes total sense. You do have control over that and you should take control over your future and protect yourself. Hugs to you...I know it has to be so hard.