I actually felt a little better abut myself when I found out 2 months after bomb drop because I realized that the reasons the marriage was failng was because of her actions. I own up 50% of the problems in the marriage, but the decisiion to cheat means that you are a bad person.
Big of you to own up to 50%.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
