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Sorry to hear about your situation, but I'm glad you're here.

If she wants to move, I say let her. Your child is not moving I can almost guarantee that.

I have asked her a few times to move out and told her that I do not want to live in an open relationship and if she doesn't want our family anymore she is free to go, but on the other hand she really can not afford to move out on her own and take care of our son for the few days of the week that she will have him.

She's not on the deed, she's separated from you to pursue OM, and has left the house to go across the country to see OM. Hhhmm...part of me wants to change the locks! Probably not a good idea legally speaking.

Since she is a SAHM WW I would only pay food, electric, etc - the basics. Don't give her money to go out. And if she has money to go out then don't give her anything IMO.

If she leaves to go see OM on a vacation on your dime I'd be tempted take her crap and throw it out into the street.

I am planning to tell her that I know that her trip will be to meet OM and not her girlfriends (as she claims). Am I being too controlling in that situation?

More weak than controlling. You can't stop her. Serve her papers or say nothing. Less talk, more actions for this situation.

I told my inlaws, guess what they took her side which is what will happen more often than not. I'm not saying it's a bad idea to expose, just that you should have no expectations.

So I'll recommend my favorite, the LRT:

1. Stop pursuing
2. GAL
3. Wait and see.

What is your goal here? To get her back? The best thing to do to get her back is to really go no contact. Leave her alone. Go do you. I don't know how much you need to communicate for your child, probably not too much as there are routines and she hasn't moved out. I would try not to be around when she is going to be around but don't let her run you off either.