I hope this time is different but you aren't saying anything different than things you have said before. We'll see though.
I recommend getting into things you always wanted to while you were with your ex but wouldn't have been allowed. For me it was cooking meals that were ridiculously involved, and my motorcycle.. (god i love that thing).
Find who you are without her...or better yet, re-discover who you are without her. You may find you enjoy life better without all that dead weight of anxiety around your neck.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11