I'm really sorry you're going through this. I'm short on time, so will jump to your question--
Originally Posted by dmrafa
As I am aware of all her plans to spend a lovely "vacation" with OM should I really push for kicking her out of the house? As in give her the ultimatum - she either goes to spend time with him and I will not allow her back home (her name is not listed anywhere on the home deed) or she decides to cancel the vacation and we keep the peace until she finds her own place and we wrap up mediation. I don't feel it is right for her to go out and spend time with OM while enjoying the comfort of our home. It is very disrespectful towards me and very painful as well. I am planning to tell her that I know that her trip will be to meet OM and not her girlfriends (as she claims). Am I being too controlling in that situation?
I doubt you can kick her out. If you're thinking about that, I'd consult an attorney. In most places, that home is her residence, and you can't just evict her. In some places, you've been living together long enough that you are considered "common law married", and 50% of that home may be her property. The worst kind of ultimatum or boundary is the one you can't enforce. Those look, feel, and are weak.
