Ugh, I’ve been away a couple weeks and was back at the house getting financials for D and stbxw comes out from bedroom around noon after teleworking a couple hours. All dressed up to see Om, which is her style, never at night, couple hours in the afternoon. Gives me the dirtiest look because I know but don’t say anything.
And I’m annoyed because how much of a settlement she’s going to get when I did all the heavy lifting. After working 40 years, busting my hump, the plan, our plan was for me to retire, she works part time, kids are in college. We are supposed to travel. Nope. Throws a grenade in everyone’s travel, college, retirement plans. Boom.
And get this. We agree to use mediator. She comes back Monday and says I hired a mediator, based on a friend recommendation. Shows me the retainer agreement. I’m like no, you hired a lawyer.
W:But he does mediation.
N: No, he is your advocate, he’s not impartial.
So this goofball attorney sends a revise retainer that says she is his client, but he will mediate, even though he is not a sanctioned mediator. We both have waive conflict of interest.But if I want an impartial mediator, I can hire one, but d bag attorney will still participate. So, dude, that’s when my lawyer shows up.
No, you have all the info, have him draft a settlement agreement, and I will have an attorney review it. What he wants to doing is unethical.
Now it should be pretty simple because no kids, alimony, or child support.split everything 50/50.
The only thing working for me is she wants this done, so hopefully if d bag attorney starts messing around, she’ll call him on it. So expect less than a year BD to divorce.
Honestly, how anybody can watch their wife stink eye them as they go out the door to see OM and not want a D?
