Need advice on stubborn W part 2

[Adam04]

Lol, Steve I was going to comment on the same thing about drastic steps...

To me it sounds like it’s coming from a place of fear. If AK feels in order to dB he has to take these drastic measures it either sounds like from fear or a cop out to not simply look at what he can easily do today, taking those baby steps. I say cop out only because it looks like he’s hung up on getting brownie points and trying to nice his way back ... sounds like denial and bargaining. Doesn’t sound like acceptance to move on.

I was also going to add, did you read DR AK, are you adhering and putting the rules to memory. This for me is important, Do you believe your marriage is dead?

I can see where people get tunnel vision on saving their marriage not truly believing it’s dead. This is not a tangible thing. I feel once you understand and come to terms with it you begin other cycles of your grief... right now still seems like denial. If you haven’t checked into the stages of grief I suggest you do so to shed some light on where you’re at to see what you’re doing. Try to get to a place of acceptance and move on.

Before posting , I went back to read your sitch last night Ak. I was asking myself if you didn’t think repulsion enough was a motivator to let her be.