It's hard to believe how this works. The damage I have done to myself in trying to save the marriage is hard to comprehend. At the time she had her affair I was only worth $1mm. If I had just pulled the ripcord then it literally would have saved me $1mm because of how much I've grown my business. There also would have been no chance of support (spousal or child support). Now that I was successful, even though she has torn me apart over those 5 years and made it very hard to be at work, she gets hundreds of thousands of dollars plus more than likely $4-7k per month.
Sometimes lessons in life are hard. I hope you will never again tolerate infidelity.
Originally Posted by ScottB
Not to mention how the marriage counselors pushed me to be more vulnerable and to share my feelings, all of which were weaponized and turned against me by my STBXW.
This is exactly why we do not encourage MC when one partner has check out.
Originally Posted by ScottB
I'm sure I'm overreacting and I need to just settle down and wait this out to see how this goes, but its a lot to take.
It is a lot to take but I am sure it won't be as bad as you anticipate.
