I have not even started but STBXH texted about tax documents from broker... I said I had not received anything. THAT WAS IT.
Well it came the very next day --- so I texted "Docs arrived today". He replied OK and I expected that he would request copy but he never did.
SO yesterday I told him we needed to talk later about tax stuff to which he replied 'OK'. I did not push and left it in his court. Very late in the afternoon he texted asking if I could talk. I waited a bit and replied that I was available but knew he might be sleeping so left it to him to call.
He called back - very sleepy. I told him it was not urgent and we could discuss when he is less tired. He said nope, not a problem. Had to discuss how to file taxes - we are legally separated so will be filing separate but this tax document is from a joint account and one of us has to file it. He was in such a rush to liquidate accounts about this time last year and I did not get the account locked down until after he liquidated --- he took a $7k hit on assests. (24% hit). NOW, last year I told him that after the accounts were locked down and he could not clear account.
As I was explaining that we will be able to offset our taxes due to huge loss but not sure how to split it just yet - was researching. As I think there is a limit per person but we should both be able to benefit.
I explained what a hit the account took when he liquidating at the beginning of COVID... he seemed to have completely forgot that he took a 7k loss... acted clueless. ok.
NOW - historically this account has been a point of contention. He feels its "HIS" money and not part of marital property. My atty feels otherwise. Regardless since both of our names are on it I'm equally legally responsible for and while its more capital loss there is still interest to report. I figured he would argue and claim the account 100% given his history about it... NOPE. He said he had completely forgot about the account and filed his taxes just earlier today (wait... I texted YESTERDAY the Docs came???) Anyway in talking about taxes he forgot to report his unemployement. ((I always did the taxes)). I let him know to wait until his taxes were accepted and to file an amendment which was pretty easy to do. Bottom line is he said he forgot and I should take the tax break and file it as he was not going to mess with it.
Business item done.
I tried to get off the phone politely by saying he needed to get some sleep before his shift... But, he wouldn't let me get off the phone??? He kept talking... and talking... and talking... I tried 2 other times to get off the phone. He talked about the kids and actually for once asked about S19. He hasn't really asked about S19 in forever. He went on about what he was watching on Netflix. Sometimes I just sat with the phone sort of off to the side and was petting my cat more than listening to him. Next thing he is talking about his bff that just visited him. Then on to food and raving about me needing to get an air fryer?
I then realized I suffer from Nice Girl Syndrome. OR I'm a people pleaser... because I am NOT getting off this phone... for 2hr.... ((FACEPALM)) I finally said... YOU NEED SLEEP AND I NEED TO GO... and he was like yeah... talk to you later.... What the heck???
In the end he is telling me he still doesn't have an atty. He knows we have a court date 3/11 but I'm not going to be there - I'm letting my atty handle it. He thinks we may have a final decree before then??? Interesting as my atty just got the last financial docs from the accountant this week. Oh well......
Woke up this morning and STBXH was my first thought again... and I was thinking. Maybe pilot is right... maybe I should be hating this man. If I hated him maybe it would be easier... maybe I'm not going through a divorce because I'm trying to keep it peaceful and happy. Why can't I hate this man??? He clearly treated me wrong so many times during our M. I want to hate him but how do you hate a broken person??? How does a broken person hate??? Where is my anger???
