Help.

[Joe2017]

@joe2017

Thanks J. I had a big step today and getting help for what I think is at the core of the codependency. I saw a book about codependency at her house a few weeks ago actually - but that's her journey and I'm working on focusing on only my own.

Also - How does validating her play into any of this? I downloaded a list awhile ago and was curious how that (if)played into this?

Validating is a way of responding to what they say while trying to avoid a negative emotional response. It works both directions. You learn to validate instead of argue a point (and maybe get some insight and reduce conflicts), and they get an answer from you that de-escalates and makes them feel acknowledged.