Steve_Letting go pt2

[Adam04]

Steve,

Wow I was going to say it’s good you keep coming back with all the 2x4s you’ve been hit with. I can’t even joke about you taking the abuse well. Trying to get you out of that from your marriage. I hope you D your wife for you and your kids’ sake. I’m not one to suggest that lightly but in your case, you can do so much better without her.
I was thinking, okay Steve will see it soon since what he says sounds good, He’s beginning to see the light and then I read your last few lines... smh.

Don’t go a week without this board or your IC is my suggestion. Hopefully one day someone will say something to you that will be at the right time and it’ll be that last straw you need to break free.

Where you appear to be at now and where you outta be, it’s like east and west. I still believe you’ll get there though. I only hope you don’t have to drag your kids thru hell with you...

Maybe think of it from this perspective, you know you’ve been conditioned to take the abuse and from it, you can handle a little more and a little more. This is what I see happening. You may not think the kids are affected as you are, but I’m sure many can object. My question is do you want your kids to be conditioned to this level of pain that you are going thru? What happens as they get older and find out mommy’s been with 6-7 other guys while daddy’s in IC Trying to cope with it. There is no empowerment. Do you want your kids to live as if they are trapped as if they have to accept that behavior from anyone else, cause in my eyes that’s what’s happening.

Also while on that note of think about the kids... I see people using that as an excuse to staying in a volatile relationship. They manipulate that to support their selfish ways. I know it’s hard to go the other way, trying to do what is right when our minds are foggy. I ask what do you want your kids to learn from this as they grow into adults..
Then before you answer that, ask yourself if you are naive to it, or if there could possibly be more to it that you should learn about and get advice on from experts. Question whether you are possibly making a mistake or doing the right thing and why. While I feel it is never too late to steer the ship right, the sooner, the better.