Now shes not with anyone back at moms but doesnt want to come back to the M because she doesnt want to hurt me when she isnt for sure its what she wants. (in a way I can respect that).
Do you actually believe this? Seriously?
She has hurt you repeatedly and has no problem doing it again. Your feelings are the very last thing she cares about. She says she wants to be alone? I'd bet my mortgage payment she's talking to other men.