Ah yeah, I joined back when she had a long-distance A with this dude in Boston (we in CA). She went so far as to even fly out to see him and he flew to see her here. She changed her mind of course, proposed marriage to me, said she would never stray again and of course sep 2020 shes out the door once again.
Of course I blamed myself for not giving her enough attention and being too comfrotable with this new found "commitment" she had, getting the new home, all the serious stuff we were doing to "cement" this renewed thing and bam shes gone. Now shes not with anyone back at moms but doesnt want to come back to the M because she doesnt want to hurt me when she isnt for sure its what she wants. (in a way I can respect that).
My plan moving forward is to stop trying to draw this hard line "im done" and not enforcing it, the real plan I am actually doing is this.
Detatch more and more: (I did leave last time I went over there, she said I could stay, left anyways) not much but big for me. Give her much less attention: Getting better and better but still too attached Keep IC: I have been, not missing anything GAL: taking kids out, talking to friends, doing stuff besides thinking of the M
thats the plan slow going but going.
T:11 M:10 K: D5, S7 BD: 9/1/20 WW continues to break up and recon with OM. I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021 Default Dissolution granted 8/5/21. Glad my D was not busted.
