Little Gerda Goes Forward with Courage and Safety

[Gerda]

I am so touched that so many of you chimed in here! It's funny because I stopped posting as often about all the insane things H does to D11 and in general, but this kind of stuff happens pretty much every other week. After a while the stuff that used to scandalize you just becomes the things you record in the records you keep on your H in case you ever get a chance to use them in court (e.g., in case I ever get in front of a judge who gives a .... hoot) and you don't feel like you even need to tell anyone about them. In this case, what was on my mind was where we draw the line about exposing our kid to abuse, so I needed some recent examples! I think DnJ's point, that you can only do what you can do within the boundaries of custody agreements, is spot on. Like making a life post MLCer, you can only work with what you can work with. In the case of my son, he was old enough and strong enough to choose a safer path so he just refuses to see H at all. And H just let it happen, barely even tries anymore. On the other hand, he has a lot of anger and often treats me just like H did. Thank god he has a therapist who knows how to work with him and who he trusts. This man is so solid, has certainly saved him from becoming much worse.

I will write more specific responses soon but just wanted to thank you all so much for all these sustaining words which I was checking daily. Very fortifying words, ideas and just the fact that you all cared so much.