same story again

[GH31]

i need to learn how to stop being for other people and start being for me without being selfish.

It's OK to be selfish mate.

A selfish man is a man without a self.

By being selfish I don't mean you look after yourself at the expense of others, you look after yourself as well as others.

Thou lovest thy neighbour as thou lovest thyself.

Until now, as you say, you've been caretaking others at the expense of yourself.

Let her get her flat and have fun with all the bills, repairs, responsibility etc.

D16 should surely be old enough to decide for herself with whom she lives, according to English law?