Midlife Crisis and Affair with Past GF

[may22]

I've had to set only two boundaries so far. First that he take off her ring around me (that I saw him wearing on his pinky when he started to stay at the house again), and the other that if he went to see her, I'd not stop him, but he needs to quarantine and get tested to not expose the family to Covid. As I know he is planning to celebrate his and S20 birthday next week, it certainly doesn't appear he will do that. Of course, I don't have hard-core proof he is with OW. But in my gut I think he is.

Ugh, he's wearing her ring? I'm so sorry. That's gross. For some reason when I read this before I hadn't caught that.

But more importantly... if the testing/quarantine is a real boundary for you, how will you enforce that? Just not go? Not let him back in the house? Leave yourself? Remember that boundaries are about protecting you, not about controlling him.