Midlife Crisis and Affair with Past GF

[SteveLW]

Elbereth, I was just pointing out to you that you were making excuses for him. You don't have to justify your waiting for him to me! That is completely up to you.

As far as MLCs, the problem is that sometimes other things get incorrectly categorized as MLCs. For instance, this is who the person really was all along and they were living a lie. Or sometimes it isn't a MLC as much as it is a change in personality/worldview/etc. We call it is "crisis" but many times the person going through it sees it as an epiphany. That they've never been happy and are now doing things to that make them happy. We like to try to diagnose it as a MLC because if we can diagnose, we think it can be healed.

I think in general you are approaching things pretty well, but you do need to make some tweaks. One being not to excuse his bad behavior, and two not trying to nice him back by being super-wife.

Hang in there!