KK, in the past month you have opened up about this historic abuse... then you mention the word recon..
I have nothing to do with my ex - I block her on everything except email. We ONLY communicate by email.
My ex didnt abuse me the way you say your husband did - yet you allow picture exchanges ? WTF ?
This is where you will say its all about the puppy ?
IMO, the above shows you are still hung up on the ex..
It is also a perfect example of why you should not be dating !
If you wanted to move on, you would - you would take that step... you chose not to... Kind of like Curtis and his WWs horse situation.. a reason to keep contact.
I raised this puppy for the first 7mo of his life. I did the hard work as that puppy was a turd to housebreak... STBXH got to walk off with a trained puppy... LOL.
So I'm super attached the puppy.
Weird as it is... I still think about pilots dogs... one was not doing well. Maybe that's why I'm a vet? I focus on the critters more???
Either way I 100% realized that I created my own pain by showing up and being on call for puppy. It led to conversations and chatting and lunch. A good deal of lunch was focused on the kids. Granted we don't "share" kids but we raised these kids as our own for 10yr.
I'm working through that 75% of the time my STBXH was an amazing guy. He had his incredible moments and 25% of the time anger, meaness, flat out cruelness and abuse came out. He never came out and apologized but looking back he tried through actions but nothing would change long term and it was always he was stressed out and sleep deprived. And, before you judge... he was most of the time sleep deprived. 12-14hr days 7 days a week.
I saw the "good" man during the times with the puppy and at lunch. Its the "good" man I miss. The screaming and yelling and physical and emotional abuse was devestating... but as they say "hurt people hurt people". Maybe I'm too forgiving... IDK.
I don't know why he randomly sends pics. I don't ask. They are only of the forge and his knives that he is making - a new hobby.
He isn't asking the save the M. He has moved on and I need to as well... I'm in my own way of that happening.
It is like a bandaid....you rip it off.
Next time he texts you because THE DOG licked a sore spot in his hide, your response. "I think it would be best from this point forward for you to find veterinary care elsewhere, and closer to your house."
THEN BLOCK HIS NUMBER.
You control you. Even if you insist that you don't.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
