That “good man” you miss also has an evil side , the side prevailant now that has put you here for the last few years.
That comment to ginger about your timeline for healing is not hers, you’re right. I think though that that can be a complicated thing to unpack or very simple. It’s up to the person how difficult we make it for ourselves as we try to “progress and move forward” in all of it. Of course we can backslide and falter back sometimes but are we moving ahead enough to not stay stagnant?
I’ve not really commented on your thread but I have read posts thru the months. I sympathize in many ways and hope you find peace in the healing process but don’t go soft on and make excuses for him. You did that with the sleep deprivation. When you say things like before you judge, it will have the opposite effect and I for one become supercritical , I and many here who have been BD’d probably sleep on average 4 hours or less and you got some of the most caring, compassionate people here so wake up to that.
H 49 , W 47 T 23, M 17 S11, S5 BD: 7/18 IHS: 7/18 - 3/19 Physically Separated: 3/19-4/19 Piecing: 4/19 - Current
