WAW Hired a Divorce Coach (Cont7.)

[LH19]

LH - Man, sometimes you say something and I think, that is so straight on.

Just sometimes. Come on man!

I would change that a touch though. The woman I married and the woman she became were too very different women. But I did put up with this second woman for a solid 8 years. I remember before the affair thinking that every time she spoke to me she sounded pissed off.

What I am saying Scotty B is you married a cheater. Now she may have been faithful for 15 years but she's still a cheater and eventually she was going to cheat again. Why? Because she doesn't think it's wrong, She will always find a way to justify it. So now you know in the future when a woman talks to you like that you know somethings wrong. You either fix what is wrong or you walk and never look back.

I do find solace in the fact that at this time everyone I know that knows her that I maintain a relationship with feel like she is in a MLC or has some mental issue going on or something hormonal. I have been on a quest to feel that this wasn't about me.

So you are right that hormones, brain chemicals are involved but it is also about you. She feels she can't be happy with you. Right or wrong that is how she feels. Time will tell if she is right or wrong.

Now before everyone jumps me, yes I had a hand in issues no doubt, but at the end of the day I moved heaven and earth and at this point I am not mentally ill or having an MLC or anything like that.

Do you have a doctors note verifying that Scotty B? Again, in your opinion you have moved heaven and earth.

I break rules, its what I do: So I spoke with my sister in law, married to my brother, this weekend. She is very direct, tells it like it is, she's east coast / NYer. My wife and her had a good relationship. Anyhow, my sister in law said how she really works to stay in the middle and she always believes their are two sides, but that in this one she said my STBXW has something mental going on and my sister in law believes in ten years my STBXW will look back with regret.

Your sister-in-Law is trying to ease your pain. She has no way of knowing that. A lot depends on luck. Your Ex could find the most amazing man who listens and understands her and makes her feel like the most special person on earth.

CW - Man, I don't think I can unfriend her. That feels like war. I can decide to be on FB less or remove my profile temporarily. I don't get on it often at all. Just happened to check it Saturday and then I wasn't look for her, her second profile just showed up in my "People You Might Know" section.

Just block her. She will never know.

I still need to get my motorcycle thing booked. And I have a goal this week to book a fishing trip for June and a Skiiing Trip for March. Hoping the Motorcycle thing call fall in place for April. I also may take the kids to FL in April over Easter to see my parents and I'm debating heading back south in three weeks when I don't have the kids.

Have you ever road a motorcycle? I am learning now. You just to get on a motorcycle and go on a long trip. That would not be responsible.