LH - Man, sometimes you say something and I think, that is so straight on.
Originally Posted by LH19
Scotty B,
Truth be told she is the woman you married. You were sleeping with her when she had a boyfriend.
I would change that a touch though. The woman I marrried and the woman she became were too very different women. But I did put up with this second woman for a solid 8 years. I remember before the affair thinking that every time she spoke to me she sounded pissed off.
I do find solace in the fact that at this time everyone I know that knows her that I maintain a relationship with feel like she is in a MLC or has some mental issue going on or something hormonal. I have been on a quest to feel that this wasn't about me.
Now before everyone jumps me, yes I had a hand in issues no doubt, but at the end of the day I moved heaven and earth and at this point I am not mentally ill or having an MLC or anything like that.
I break rules, its what I do: So I spoke with my sister in law, married to my brother, this weekend. She is very direct, tells it like it is, she's east coast / NYer. My wife and her had a good relationship. Anyhow, my sister in law said how she really works to stay in the middle and she always believes their are two sides, but that in this one she said my STBXW has something mental going on and my sister in law believes in ten years my STBXW will look back with regret.
Whether true or not, whether I should have had that conversation or not, it does help me heal and move on and that's what I need.
On the Facebook stuff:
Vapo - I agree. I need to work to go less contact. There is just a lot of BS that she hits me up for and then like I said on Saturday I texted her and I shouldn't have (it was only 2 texts, but still).
CW - Man, I don't think I can unfriend her. That feels like war. I can decide to be on FB less or remove my profile temporarily. I don't get on it often at all. Just happened to check it Saturday and then I wasn't look for her, her second profile just showed up in my "People You Might Know" section.
And Harvey, I'm not on it at all (because there is a chance I see something from the X that will send me on Tilt.) ------------------- I love Monday's because I take the kids snowboarding, so tonight will be awesome. I also booked a ski trip for me in he kids in two weeks which is going to be AWESOME.
I still need to get my motorcycle thing booked. And I have a goal this week to book a fishing trip for June and a Skiiing Trip for March. Hoping the Motorcycle thing call fall in place for April. I also may take the kids to FL in April over Easter to see my parents and I'm debating heading back south in three weeks when I don't have the kids.
This coming weekend will only be my second at home without the kids, so its kind of like a test run to see how I do emotionally.
