Steve_Treading Water

[MrBrside]

Yep I get it finally 100%. Being nice, being a push over is stupid. It got me nowhere but pain. And she is still running away. Last night she told me “I want to get a new car” she can’t afford it.

Not your concern.. Too many conversations going on with your WW to be healthy.. I suggest you stick to email communication only

She is running herself out there. Brags about how many men want her. Told me to give her time.

Not your concern - again

I finally grabbed my balls and said no. That’s BS.

not your concern - don't engage in the first place ! - Your have a bad habit of doing this - DRAMA !

And I realized I am so attached to my idea of family because I always wanted to make thier loss worth it. To do it right to never give up and take whatever comes at me.

Steve, most men are attached to the idea of a family - beautiful wife and children. Its nothing new - its been that way since mankind began - partners and having children. We are taught this from early child hood - films / parents / grandparents. Everywhere we look when growing up is "families" - I think its fair to say most people want a happy family life and to bring their children up in the best enviroment possible.
Unfortunetly, things are different from 30 years ago - attitudes have changed and divorces and single parent families have increased massively.
I would also say your family life was not a good enviroment - your wife is toxic !

After my w told me last night she wants to play the field and figure it out later. She said I’m attractive I’m a good man and she knows I love her and the kids but I’m boring.

More conversation !!! Really ?

It just dawned on me. I’m allowing all this. I always have. That’s where I failed. I thought love would conquer all but no. Basic human respect is the building block of anything. Like sandi and others have said. I told her thanks for the heart to heart and it helped me really see something I needed to see.

lots of words - too many words - Why oh Why are you having these heart to hearts ? You like torturing yourself !

I got my kids I got my job and I got my self respect.

Sorry Steve - You do not have any self respect. You have been posting here for 2 months.. You ignore most advice and you are still engaging in conversations or trying to justify your poor choices.

she is a manipulative serial cheater - That you would also take her back tomorrow if she came running..

Tell me Steve, how does that equate to self respect ?

I’m going absolutely NC, dark, whatever. I am done saving my marriage.

Well your recent update was the exact opposite ! - Lots of chat there. Lets see how you go on. Actions not words Steve. I hope you sort this out ! For your kids safe if anything.