Midlife Crisis and Affair with Past GF

[Elbereth]

Thank you. You have given me a lot to think about. I appreciate it.

If I’m not supposed to do nice things for him but we are living under the same roof, could you better describe to me how I should act towards him in your opinion? Are you saying I should not engage unless he speaks to me first, act distant and detached but friendly, tell him he cannot eat any of the food prepared in the house, etc?

If he’s not living with me, then it’s more cut and dry. But in living under the same roof I’m not as clear on what you all feel is the right behavior towards H?

As for my step son, I did not adopt and I do not have any legal requirements, but I am still their parent by choice.