currently reading the NMMNG book and the below fits me like a glove,and i never realised that i was like this?
"The Enmeshing Nice Guy makes his partner his emotional centre. His world revolves around her. She is more important than his work, his friends, his hobbies. He will do whatever it takes to make her happy. He will give her gifts, try to fix her problems, and arrange his schedule to be with her. He will gladly sacrifice his wants and needs to win her love. He will even tolerate her bad moods, rage attacks, and emotional or sexual unavailability — all because he "loves her so much."
i need to learn how to stop being for other people and start being for me without being selfish.
It's a rough realization to deal with. And it is a b*tch to change if you've been that way for a long time. I still find myself doing falling back into that pattern, but at least I can recognize it now and try to catch myself or remind myself not to go backwards. It may not always work, but at least I'm aware of it.
