So the “meeting” tonight went well. She was her new self. Meaning not my old wife. Angry and blaming. She got upset with me because she said she was unfairly spending her money on the kids more than I was (I forgot to point out that I am the one that sends her the money). I tried to think through solutions to this with her.
She wanted written into the agreement that we could each see the kids in their birthdays and I said I wasn’t sure about that. As we went over the finances she accused me of not explaining everything to her. I remained calm.
And then I told her i was thinking about taking the kids on a ski trip, and asked her how she felt about it and she said “my opinion doesn’t really matter now does it” in a very pissed off tone. I just kind said Ok and left it there.
After the meeting I was good. No real emotional issues.
But then I got home and was on Facebook and under the people you might know her profile showed up. I thought she had unfriended me, so I looked, but she hadn’t. So I texted to say she had potentially been hacked. She said she would look into it. 5 minutes later the account was gone.
This is where I went wrong; I texted her again to say “looks like that account is gone” and she texted me back “I went in and deleted it.”
The picture on the account was from 12/2019 (the date was listed as the last update). Anyhow, that set me off some. It brought back feelings of her lying and hiding things in the past and didn’t sit well with me. It’s like I was so close to having done a good job and then the universe conspires against me.
Anyhow, at our meeting I did not discuss our relationship at all. I stayed focused on the business at hand. Once or twice she almost started crying as we discussed the kids. She attacked me several times. I didn’t react and I never backed down. I was not aggressive, I wasn’t gentle either. I treated it like a business meeting and when she attacked me I didn’t counter punch and just ignored it.
