I have come to realize that at this moment, for my principals, for the kids, for the family, I need to try to do what I can to save the MR if possible. But I also see that my H has many flaws, that I feel he is damaged and he may never be the kind of man I need. I’ve accepted that as well and also feel that the moment I’m done, I’ll know it and can move forward on my own. As a step parent I committed to this R for H AND kids. I feel I’m the only sane parent they have and want to show them that integrity, principles, and morals matter, and that you just don’t drop people when the going gets tough like both this bio parents have.
Do you think I’m crazy? Ha! Sometimes I do as well!
Nope, not at all! I agree 100% with everything you've said above. I feel with all my heart that when we had children we committed to being a family for them, even more so than when we were married. I'm with you completely on this.
You may want to check out the MLC board too. Hang in there!
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
