He is still harping on that freaking beanie? If he remembers sealing it up in plastic, then he has to know where the heck it is. For all you know, he could have tossed it out a long time ago or it's still packing in his stuff. OMG! I can remember my nut wanting stuff he had donated to a church yard sale. He swore up and down that I still had the stuff. Do you think he's harping on this item so that you will allow him to come to the house and do a walk through? You have told him time and again you don't have it. I would listen to him talking about it and let it go out the other ear. I wouldn't purchase another one nor would I give him the money for it. It's old and truth be told, if you did happen to purchase one, he would find something else to go on and on about that he thinks is still in your home. In his mind, if you purchase a new one for him, he will think you destroyed the other one...and will make every effort to guilt you even when you don't have it or destroyed it. Just leave him be.
MLCers are worse than kids. They fixate on one thing and will drive you crazy over it until you give in and then they start up again w/something new. If you don't have it, you don't have it....don't even think about replacing it. He's a grown man and can get another one for himself. When they finally realize that you aren't going to bend over backwards to give them what they are harping on, he will stop it eventually. Listen and then let it go in one ear and out the other. I know it's frustrating, but you can't reason w/him because he is not rational and no matter what you do, it will never be enough.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
