I think the not feeling good enougg comes from my childhood, my dad was always very critical and difficult to please. I could never feel like anything was good enough no matter what i accomplished. I guess that became my own internal narrative to this day, and everyone i know says i am too hard on myself.
Not sure about the victim mentality, i think its an instilled fear of rejection. I havent figured out where that comes from yet but its most likely to do with having to try be what i feel people think i should be and when i dont then they won't accept me. I guess i feel sorry for myself when i feel rejected for who i am.
Me 32, W 24 T 6, M 3 No kids BD: Aug 2020 OM: Jan 2021 Wife to file soon