And I also realize that in some ways it allows me to be his backup plan, as I truly believe the EA/PA will run its course and not last.
Just be prepared for the fact that it might not run its course, or as quickly as you like. My STBXW's is at 8 months, ask Ginger how long she would have been waiting. Google the Stockdale Paradox.
Me: 41 W:42 T: 14 M: 11 S: 6
"What happened happened, and couldn't have happened any other way...because it didn't"