I think its a feeling of never feeling good enough, i am my harshest critic and i struggle to forgive myself for mistakes i have made.
We can only do our best. A week ago, I said on the night of my BD #3 I did not do my best and my behavior fell short of my standards. But that's neither being kind nor true. My best changes day by day. There may be a general upward trend, but there will be times we're tired, stressed, or trying new things.
Originally Posted by Ace_32
After she left she would send me long messages saying hurtful things and blaming me and i would try to justify myself but i stopped doing this after a while and started apologising and trying to validate her and the way she felt.
We can learn from our mistakes. What would you say in your next relationship--with this woman or another--if your partner were angry and believed you'd wronged them, but you felt justified in your actions? What would you say about your previous behaviors--justifying, apologizing, and validating?
