Keep f*%king going

[OnlyBent]

I was reading on someone else’s thread and it got me thinking. My D will be 14 this year. I will not be trying to blend families or live with another man until she’s off to college. It’s another chapter to mourn in my life. She’s just too old for it to know and those years are too risky to try to Attempt such a big life change.

I admire that you are putting your daughter first, I think too many in our situation think of themselves first in this regard. My Mum was a single mum to 4, and she didn't really even date until I was 17 (the youngest). I am really glad for this. My Stepdad is a great guy, but my Dad chose my Stepmum over his kids and it has scarred the 4 of us in lasting ways.

I also read a lot on newcomers with these new divorcees about my age who want to enter the dating pool right out of the gate without dealing with their own stuff, and OMG, that’s what’s out there for me now. Men who can’t be alone and are still stuck on their ex wives. God help me.

I understand how scary and depressing that this would feel. Hopefully there are enough men on this forum who aren't doing just that though and are taking the time to deal with their own issues. If there are some on here, there are definitely some out there Ginger, please don't lose hope for that.

My love life seems more and more hopeless day by day and that is difficult to deal with. Life has been pretty lonely. Come home, do house work, cook dinner, eat, and eat alone, go to bed. No one to talk about my day woth. No one to give me a shoulder rub, no one to have conversation with. And my friends are so distanced now with this pandemic. It’s literally no one out there.

You are not alone in feeling like this, I have been dealing with those feelings for 8 months now and its hard, can't imagine how hard its been for the length of time you've been dealing with it. I really just miss talking about the small things, if I had a win at work or found a lunch spot we should try. My Mum did this for 15 years which made it all the more sweeter when she found her perfect person, a complete gent who had dealt with his stuff and loved her grown kids as if they were his own.

Good things happen to those who deserve it Ginger, just takes longer than we'd like sometimes.