Trying to heal from WW

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I let her get away with too much and didn't have the energy to have the same fights anymore and i guess i just started giving up on standing up for myself and sticking to my boundaries.

Hi Ace, hopefully as you work on self-improvement, you'll learn to set and maintain a boundary without fighting. If you wanted a bank teller to give you $100 for free, they'd say no, and they wouldn't fight.

i didnt really do much without her so its tough.

It's a chance to try new things. It's also worth trying some things you did with your ex. You can do those now and be yourself without any fear of reaction. If she was worth doing something for, so are you.

I tend to drink too much so thats something i am trying to work on, also want to start jogging and exercising more.

These are fantastic goals.

e is helping me to realise the internal issues i have and how this isnt all my fault.

Of course! A breakup is usually the fault of two people. You own your part, they own theirs.

Learning to like myself has been one of my biggest problems in my life

I'm watching for "automatic thoughts" (my inner critic) to challenge and replace negative ones with positive ones. Ace, keep up the good work! I see lots of effort in this last past. Take care.