Yes. Lots of people can rile me, that doesn’t mean I change my life because of it. Work colleagues, clients, kids, my brother. I’m not sure how someone pissing me off is the measuring stick. I am confident that for the rest of my life my STBXW will be pissing me off.
I see. Maybe a personality difference? My ex-wife, work colleagues, and most clients can't rile me up--because they have little to no power of me. My ex-GF still can, so I'm NC, and I'll be over her when she can't.
Originally Posted by ScottB
I found her to be unattractive, old looking, and I think she’s losing hair.
Is this objective Scott, or did you switch from rose-colored lenses to dark shades? When I felt into my ex-GF I focused on her eyes, her behind, and her fitness. When I was not, I focused on her age lines.
Originally Posted by ScottB
Anyhow, I’ll be moving on fast when I move. I can feel it. We all walk our own path. We’ll see what mine looks like.
Often people who rush into dating are masking something--e.g, their grief or inability to be happy solo. The first new person you sleep with after many years can stir up powerful emotions. If you don't take time to work out your baggage and figure out what you really want, the chance of getting stuck on someone unsuitable for a LTR with you seems high per other situations. You do you. Just food for thought. Stay strong, Scott!
