yes it did occur to me that just separating might benefit her financially, but I think she's interested in dating and wouldn't want to do that just being separated. And here in California, my ex was advised that a legal separation was just as much work and expense as a divorce and that one should just do the divorce - that was also the lawyer who told my ex that if there was any way to save his marriage he should, and we did reconcile for several years. I don't know the lawyer's name but I've always blessed him for that.
