What shall I do? 1. Go to the coffee and tell her all the things we discussed. Don't want to be a friend and if that is what she wants I don't want to see her until she changes her mind (not sure how to formulate that better to be less direct). 2. Just send her a text or voice message explaining the same without going for the coffee.
1. Be busy Sunday. When she tries to confirm meeting, simply respond "I am busy Sunday." If she doesn't confirm I would even advocate not showing up. At this point you do not owe her anything.
2. See #1. #2 breaks the rules of NC engagement. Get out of the that mindset. Nice guys finish last. Stop trying to nice her back.
So I disagree with Steve here. Because you have agreed to being friends you can't just ignore her and act petty. State what you want and what you will not tolerate once and then act accordingly.
