Trying to heal from WW

[OnlyBent]

Yeah its the most painful experience of my life and she doesn't seem to care how much damage she is causing. I used to believe that i deserved the way she was with me because she would blame me for hurting her and thats why she would be cold towards me. I started believing that if i was just a better husband then she would be nice to me and show me affection, the thing is that her love shouldn't have been that conditional and im starting to realise as well that while i may not have been the best husband i definitely dont deserve this.

Were we married to the same person Ace?? None of us were the best H or W, that's why we're here, but a LOT of marriages survive when someone hasn't been perfect, because guess what, no one is perfect.

Try and list the values that you would want in a future partner Ace, then list the values that your W has shown you in the last six months. Do they align?

Sorry for what you have been through as well, i am not completely familiar with your sitch. Have you got divorced or still seperated and trying?

I am on my way to being D in August and every day I am more aware that I was not happy in my old life and that I do not want to be with someone who didn't value me or our family enough to work on things, to be honest and most importantly does not love me or want to be with me.

Thanks for the encouragement, will keep moving forward because i dont really have a choice. I only have 2 options really, which is to let this ruin my life and be stuck in a hole and never move on or to realise that i cant change the past but hope that there are better things planned for my future and start working towards that. I believe that this all happened for a reason and i needed to be removed from a toxic situation.

You only have 1 option, its the latter. Embrace the escape from the toxic situation. Our situations might not be identical, but the way you've described things, we have a lot in common. You're going to thrive my man.