I have been reading though. I'm trying to get a read on you. Trying to get a good view of who you are , stripped of your current situation.
I feel like you are constantly on the edge of having a good excuse for just not doing better for yourself.
I feel like you are always looking for the easy way out of this situation.
I feel like you are still trying to hold her accountable for your decisions, and holding her responsible for your emotions.
What LH and everyone else is trying to get you to see, is that taking back YOUR power isn't totally about the bedroom, or the house, or whatever physical thing that is presenting itself that particular day...
Taking back your power is about holding yourself responsible for all that crap in your life.
Understanding that she isn't consciously doing any of this to deliberately hurt you, or wound you. she is doing this for herself. And if you can step back and see the good in this.....at "end game" , it will be for you too ...
IF you allow that to happen...
Your job right now is to grow, learn, heal, and work on yourself, and just making better choices and decisions for yourself and your life.
It isn't about "winning" or "losing"...
It isn't about "punishing" her....
Some days, it's about surviving, some days it's about thriving. THAT my friend....is YOUR choice.
What defines you, as a man, isn't about what happens TO you, it's about what you do after that....
You should never be defined by having a ring on your left hand, nor should you ever be defined by the worst thing that you have ever been through.....
