Text message from a good friend this morning. She’s been happily (apparently) married to the same guy for at least 35 years and I’ve known them almost as long. She’s maybe 60 and he’s maybe 68-69. Apparently something sudden has happened and she’s scheduled appointments with a divorce lawyer and a therapist. I’ll get more details when she’s off work. She mentioned wanting to talk to me because I’ve been “through it”.
We all know what this likely means - infidelity or some similar issue like addiction or gambling. I’m so bummed. Her husband really was one of my ex’s nicest friends, the only one who really was kind to me when ex left. And at this age you kinda hope people are past MLC nonsense.
Maybe I’m wrong. Could be drug related as he’s had terrible back problems requiring multiple surgeries but last I’d heard he’d had a good result and had a good new job (he’s retired from a good city job with a pension). They just finished putting a beautiful pool in their backyard. They should be getting ready to enjoy their golden years. Their son is grown and married and lives nearby, their home should be close to being paid off, she has a good job that she loves. She’s still beautiful (used to be a surfer swimsuit model back in the day), keeps a beautifully decorated home and seriously cooks healthy gourmet food every night (like, her friends all urge her to write a cookbook or start a restaurant). Her husband has always been the laid back guy who would bend over backwards to help you. I don’t know what’s gone wrong but it sure makes me sad.
