WAW Hired a Divorce Coach (Cont6.)

[DonH]

Here is how I suggest you handle this- tell your W "I've really thought about what you said, and I realize now that you are right, I was unnecessarily putting the kids at risk and possibly you by making that trip. I've decided that for everyone's safety, I will not be traveling again until this pandemic is under control." Now I realize how hard it is to say something like that, because you are admitting you were wrong. But that is the biggest 180 a lot of us can make, and perhaps one of the most effective.

WORST ADVICE EVER!!!!!!!!! After nearly a year of this craziness now we should suggest we listen to WAW/WW and their crazy beliefs. This is YOUR belief AS it is not law or even suggested by all - certainly by some but not by all. Everyone has to be somewhere and that includes Scott. He can just as easily contract covid at home by doing risky behavior. He doesn’t need to travel to get it. Just because after 10 months of restrictions he decided to take a trip does not mean he is wrong nor owes his W ANYTHING. She’s just looking for something, anything to make a big deal about. So what’s next, apologize for not wearing a mask someplace? Apologize for giving a causal acquaintance a hug? Because he went to a bar or restaurant? How does it matter WHERE he did these things? Many people have returned to travel. Many have returned to flying. Precautions are taken but certainly there is still risk. Well newsflash, there is some risk in EVERYTHING we do. There will be 20,000 people at the Super Bowel in 10 days. If he was lucky enough to score tickets should he not attend anymore?

Scott’s W lost the right to tell him what to do when she fired him as her husband. She can’t have it both ways and to let her think she does is cake eating. If she decides it’s too risky to be around him for 7 days this is HER CHOICE. She can stay away. I’d even go so far as to keep the kids away for a period. But to restrict Scott’s life is wrong. Let me add I know people who wore their masks more than Batman did. They washed their hands until they were raw. They rarely went anywhere and took huge safety steps when they did. Hey they later tell me, “I don’t know how I caught covid, I did everything right.” Yep, that’s why it’s called contagious. It spreads despite out best efforts.

Everyone wants to have others handle covid, and much of life, like they do. It’s not our call. It’s up to people to live their lives within the laws we have. His wife (and you) can chose to lock yourself in your house for a year if you feel that is best for you. You can also chose not to sky dive or carry a gun or eat red meet if you feel that’s best for you. But to tell others they too should not sky dive, carry a gun or eat fatty foods is just wrong. To allow a STBX to dictate any of this or need to apologize for having done it is just really, really bad advice. Let me also say I tend to agree with much of the advice you provide. Just not this time.