That helps, I told him I wouldn't help, but wasn't as clear on the 'resist part'. Thanks for that!

As for the IC, I think it was his advice and it made me very uncomfortable. So, I'm on the hunt for a new one as well as I have been reading several books as well.

Moving forward one day at a time...


Me 52, H 56
T10 M7, 2nd MR for both
2 Step Sons (19 and 21)
BD: Fall 2020
D finalized: July 2022
XH Married AP soon after D day.