That helps, I told him I wouldn't help, but wasn't as clear on the 'resist part'. Thanks for that!
As for the IC, I think it was his advice and it made me very uncomfortable. So, I'm on the hunt for a new one as well as I have been reading several books as well.
Moving forward one day at a time...
Me 52, H 56 T10 M7, 2nd MR for both 2 Step Sons (19 and 21) BD: Fall 2020 D finalized: July 2022 XH Married AP soon after D day.