Scott, I'm going to play devil's advocate a little here regarding the travel. We're in the middle of a pandemic, so these are extraordinary times. I am 59 and I've never lived through anything like this in the past. Personally I think it is foolish to travel unnecessarily right now. Anyone that does so is putting themselves AND those close to them at risk. I've known quite a few people that have gotten Covid, and their illnesses have ranged from "wow I was really tired" to "I lost my sense of taste and smell for a month" to "I was on a ventilator and they thought I was going to die" to actual death. All were people with no preexisting health conditions. There is absolutely no predicting how it's going to effect a given person. When you travel you are exposing yourself, and you can EASILY transmit it to others before even showing symptoms. So in my opinion, your W has every right to be angry about it. Because your choice to travel has put you, her and your children ALL at risk.
I think people who are suggesting to you that you did the right thing, and that you should go back again are losing sight of a very basic DBing tenet and that is this- DON'T ROCK THE BOAT. Right now your W is just looking for reasons to dislike you more than she already does. So you ALWAYS take the high road. You ALWAYS act with dignity and respect, even when you are being disrespected.
Here is how I suggest you handle this- tell your W "I've really thought about what you said, and I realize now that you are right, I was unnecessarily putting the kids at risk and possibly you by making that trip. I've decided that for everyone's safety, I will not be traveling again until this pandemic is under control." Now I realize how hard it is to say something like that, because you are admitting you were wrong. But that is the biggest 180 a lot of us can make, and perhaps one of the most effective.
